The thought of talking about the birds and bees is enough to
give any parent anxiety. Seriously, who looks
forward to having “the talk” about sex? I mean, once we tell our children about
sex, we steal their innocence. We’ve handed them over to the wolves. Maybe it’s
best to put it off as long as possible. Ignorance is bliss right? Wrong.
Credible Christian resources (such as Focus on the Family)
will tell you that it is actually more detrimental to our children to not begin
this conversation at home. Simply put. We live in a broken world. Through what
lens would you rather your child learn about sex, through the lens of a broken
world or through the lens of Christ? Let’s be honest no matter how awkward “the
talk” is, we should be equipping our children so that they can filter the truth
from the lies that this world has to offer.
Our kids are growing up in a world where information is
literally at their fingertips. A good portion of the 10 – 12 year old’s I see
on a regular basis have cell phones. With cell phones comes texting, social
media, internet, etc. Some experts caution that the first place a child hears about
sex and sees sex is through a digital device and this impression will be their
vision of sex for the rest of their life.
So parents, what are we going to do about this? First, we
have to change the way WE view sex. I know for myself I did not grow up in a
home where we had open conversations about this topic. I just knew sex was something
that you didn’t do until you got married. And you didn’t talk about it or think
about it. Well, that is legalism. I really didn’t know what sex was created
for, why I wasn’t supposed to have sex until I was married, or anything about
God’s intention. We have to lay down everything that the world has taught us
about sex and go back to the beginning, back to the one who created it, and see
it the way it was intended. We have to recall some fundamental things that we
as Christians believe.
1. God is good.
2. Everything that
God created is good, because He is good.
God created sex. God created sex and it is good because He
is good. This is a fundamental thing that we, as Christians, have to see in
order to change the perspective on this subject. God created man and woman, God
united them as husband and wife, and God created sex. God created this holy
union to be within the confines of marriage, which we see in Genesis 2:24-25.
If you read the first two chapters of Genesis we see the world and everything in
it, including marriage and sex, the way God intended for it to be. Perfect.
But, as we all know this did not last for long because in the very next chapter
in the Bible comes the fall, where sin enters the world, and everything that
God created which was perfect was now affected by sin. This includes marriage
and sex. Often, this is the version of sex that we learn about: sex after it
was affected by sin, which paints a shameful picture because of the way sinful
people have chosen to dishonor, distort, and use for sinful purposes. We then
have to undo the picture of sex that the world has painted in our own minds and
go back to the beginning and see it the way that God intended for it to be:
We, as the church, have such a desire to come alongside and partner with you in this journey. We want to help you know where to begin this conversation with your child. We want to equip you with knowledge and resources.